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Lifted Up by Mercy: Mary, the Canaanite Woman, and the God Who Raises the Lowly

8/16/2026

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​Dear Brothers and Sisters,

On August 15th, we celebrated the Assumption of Mary, recalling that at the end of her earthly life our Blessed Mother was taken body and soul into heaven. This feast reminds us that God’s power is revealed not in domination, but in mercy. He lifts up the lowly. In Mary, God shows what He desires for all His children: that the humble be raised, the forgotten remembered, and the faithful brought into glory.

Mary’s life reveals how God notices what the world overlooks. She was a young woman from an ordinary village, without status or influence, yet God chose her to bear His Son and, at the end of her earthly life, drew her body and soul into heaven. The Assumption teaches us that humility is never wasted and trust is never ignored.

This Sunday’s Gospel (Matthew 15:21–28) echoes the same truth. The Canaanite woman was an outsider, dismissed by the disciples and seemingly ignored by Jesus. Yet she refused to give up. Her persistent faith broke through every barrier, and Jesus praised her perseverance. She shows, as Mary does, that God listens to those without power and draws close to all who come before Him in need.

Mary and the Canaanite woman together show how wide God’s mercy truly is. Mary reveals the future God desires for His faithful ones; the Canaanite woman shows the courage to seek that mercy even when others say we do not deserve it. Both proclaim that God’s heart is open to those who come in humility, trust, and hope.

​God still looks upon the lowly. God still hears those who feel pushed aside. God still raises up those who cling to Him in faith. And He calls the Church to be a place where the forgotten are remembered, the outsider welcomed, and the humble honored. May our parish reflect this calling.

May Mary’s Assumption strengthen our hope, and may the Canaanite woman’s faith deepen our trust in the God who lifts up the lowly and brings His children into glory.

I wish you a grace-filled week!

Fr. Nick Apetorgbor
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The Jesus of the Mountain and the Jesus of the Storm

8/9/2026

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​Dear Brothers and Sisters,

On August 6th, the Church celebrated the feast of the Transfiguration, when Christ allowed the radiance of His divinity - normally veiled by His humanity - to shine forth. On the high mountain with Peter, James, and John, His face and garments gleamed with heavenly light. Moses and Elijah appeared beside Him, showing that the Law and the Prophets find their fulfillment in Him. Then the Father’s voice proclaimed: “This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased; listen to Him.” The Transfiguration reveals that Jesus is not merely a teacher or miracle worker, but truly God‑with‑us, whose eternal glory scatters every darkness.

This mystery resonates beautifully with this Sunday’s Gospel (Matthew 14:22–33). The disciples are battered by wind and waves, overwhelmed by fear, and unsure of what will happen next. Into that chaos, Jesus comes walking on the water. The same Lord who shines with divine splendor on the mountain steps directly into the storm to save His friends.

Together, these two Gospel scenes teach us something essential: The Jesus of the mountain is also the Jesus of the storm. His glory is not distant or abstract. It draws near to us precisely when life feels fragile, confusing, or overwhelming. In moments of fear, He speaks the same tender words He spoke to the disciples: “Do not be afraid.”

We all know “mountain moments”- times of clarity, strength, and joy. And we know “storm moments” - times of doubt, frustration, and anxiety. The Gospel assures us that Christ is present in both. His glory is not only something to admire; it is something we can depend on. He is with us in every circumstance, steadying our steps and strengthening our hearts.

Let us entrust ourselves more deeply to His faithful companionship, a companionship that comforts, strengthens, and saves.
 
I wish you a grace-filled week!

​Fr. Nick Apetorgbor
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E Hiki Mai Kou Aupuni: Building God’s Kingdom Together with Bishop Michael

8/1/2026

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​Dear Brothers and Sisters,

It was a profound honor to take part in the ordination and installation Mass of our new Bishop, Most Rev. Michael T. T. Castori, on Tuesday, July 28th at the Co-Cathedral of St. Theresa.  The celebration was deeply moving - filled with joy, hope, and a strong sense of unity.

We give thanks to the Lord for the gift of Bishop Michael and pray that God will accompany him always, blessing him with wisdom, strength, and a heart attentive to His people.

Bishop Michael chose as his episcopal motto E hiki mai kou aupuni — Thy Kingdom come.  In his remarks at the conclusion of the ordination Mass, he reminded us that God’s kingdom draws near whenever we embrace our divine calling: proclaiming the Word, lifting up the lives of others, and helping to renew the world entrusted to us.

His message resonates beautifully with this Sunday’s Gospel (Matthew 14:13–21), where Jesus withdraws to a quiet place, heals the sick, and then takes the humble offering of five loaves and two fish to feed a vast multitude, with abundance left over.

It is a vivid reminder that no gift is too small for God to use.  When we offer what we have - our skills, time, or resources - Jesus transforms our limited efforts into abundant impact.  The disciples saw scarcity in five loaves and two fish, but Jesus saw possibility.  His kingdom grows not through human strength or status, but through compassion and divine abundance.  When we stop focusing on our weakness and start trusting God’s power, even the smallest offering becomes more than enough.

May God take the humble beginnings of Bishop Michael’s ministry and bring forth a rich harvest of grace for all the people of our Diocese.  And may the Lord receive our own simple talents, gifts, and daily offerings, multiplying them so that many may be nourished by His goodness.  In this way, may His kingdom continue to shine brightly in our parish and in every heart He touches.

I wish you a grace-filled week!

Fr. Nick Apetorgbor
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The Priceless Treasure:  A Journey of Gratitude

7/26/2026

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I had the privilege of celebrating my 31st  anniversary of ordination on July 22nd, and I am very grateful to all of you for the prayers, love and support.

In this Sunday’s gospel text Jesus reminds us that the kingdom of heaven is like a hidden treasure or a pearl of great price, and that   finding it brings such profound joy that one gladly gives up everything else to possess it.

This parable reminds me of St. Mary Magdalene, on whose feast day I was ordained.  She searched for a cure for her ailment; Jesus delivered her from seven demons.  But what Mary found was far more than    healing of body and soul.  She found Jesus Himself, the Savior of the world. He completely transformed her life.  Her encounter with Him redefined her identity.  She joyfully became His disciple, and traveled with Him and the apostles, financially supporting His ministry.  She was a devoted follower who stayed with Him through the crucifixion and was the first to see Him after His resurrection. Jesus was her    everything - her treasure indeed!
Like Mary Magdalene, let us boldly acknowledge Jesus as our greatest treasure. May His love keep us steady and guide everything we do. May we imitate her by continuing to support the church and the    proclamation of the kingdom of God, not out of a sense of obligation, but in gratitude for the graces we have received.

I try to imitate Mary Magdalene in search of the hidden treasure in my daily priestly life. I experience the treasure in my personal prayer, in our common celebrations, our shared faith, and in our fellowship with each other in the parish. The treasure is alive in our midst!

While Jesus Himself is our ultimate treasure, we can be a “treasure” to one another by treating people with the same care, kindness, and grace that God shows us every single day.  So, you are the treasure and fine pearl I have found in my ministry. It is a great blessing to serve you!
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 Thank you and have a grace-filled week!

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Fr. Nick Apetorgbor
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MESSAGE FROM FR. NICK

7/19/2026

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Dear Brothers and Sisters,

I thank you all for the wonderful Meet-and-Greet last Sunday. The atmosphere was great,  and many wonderful conversations took place. We shared faith, hope, love and joy, and I had the opportunity to get to know a few more wonderful people of our parish.  It was a time of  real community characterized by trust, curiosity, and a wish to journey together as a Church, as a Christian family. I felt appreciation and love, for which I am incredibly grateful.
In this Sunday’s Gospel text Jesus speaks about the kingdom of God using parables. One of the parables is about a man who sowed good seed in his field, and an enemy sowed weeds in the same field.  Instead of pulling the weeds up prematurely - which would damage the wheat - the farmer lets both grow until harvest, when the weeds are burned and the wheat is gathered.
The image of the good seed and the weeds is a reminder that God’s good seed does grow.  It grows in the presence of weeds, it develops despite being surrounded by weeds.  It grows quietly yet powerfully.

This parable teaches us that to grow spiritually requires real world struggle. A faith that never encounters challenge, opposition or discomfort will remain shallow, fragile and unfruitful.  Our Church Fathers remind us that Christians grow best in the presence of pressures, not the absence of them.  Our parish, our families, our places of work and our communities are not perfect.  That is why we should be grateful to God that our faith is alive and active despite the distractions, temptations, challenges, and suffering that we experience in our environment.  Let us continue to pray not so much for a weed-free life as for deeper roots; God often uses the weeds to grow the seed.

While God is the ultimate source of all growth, we are called to be  active partners in His work. That is why faith continues to bloom whenever believers gather, listening to one another with profound patience, steadfast faith, and genuine joy, as experienced  during our Meet-and-Greet.

Thank you for being an important part of our beautiful OLS family!

I wish you a grace-filled week!

Fr. Nick Apetorgbor
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April 08th, 2020

4/8/2020

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Aloha and Hello Brothers and Sisters,

We are almost to the end of this Lenten Season. Holy Week is before us and we are physically distance from one another, because of the virus but I do believe we are all united in Spirit. For that, I have to say Thank You very much for continuing the journey of faith that we are on now besides the many challenges and hardships ahead of us. Please keep the faith, be healthy and be safe from the COVID-19. Beyond the distancing of who we are from one another for a short period of time, we will be together with joy and gratitude when the black cloud of COVID-19 goes away. This is really one meaning of Lent … ‘self-sacrifice’. Sacrificing of ‘our been together’ for safety reasons for a short time, enable us to be together tomorrow with gratitude and with a healthy self. 

God gave us so many opportunities. Moving towards the end of this Lenten Season and experiencing what is happening in the world nowadays, enables us to see another opportunity to have back to ourselves the gift of Gods Holiness that was with us, we lost it, because of sin. We were given three tools or three elements that we must work on so that this gift (Holiness) of God can be within us again. And this is one of the reasons that I see why things happen in this world. Way to Holiness is not easy. The way of the Cross leading to triumphant was with pain and sufferings. Ways to gain back to our self the holiness of God in this time of great hopelessness and fear - is through Fasting, Self-Sacrifice and Prayer. 

For the last two weeks, I had plenty time to spend on prayers not only for my own relationship with God but for Gods protection to all members of our Community. Sacrificing our desire to be physically with our brothers and sisters in our community services or worshipping together enable to how Gods way are not ours most of the time. I see it as a great opportunity of deepening my relationship with the God of Hope, with Jesus the Healer and with Holy Spirit who always care, protect and guide to the right path. 

What is happening in the world nowadays remind me of how God reveals to human beings in this world. We hardly accept the way how he reveals to us. Like the Jesus who is the ‘Emanuel’ of God to man, unaccepted by many even now. Even before Christ, the chosen family of God. He revealed to them in wind, thunder, storm, water and many others especially natural disasters which we hardly accept by many. To Our Lady of Sorrow too. The way She revealed Herself to the world was always through simple things or in a very low-profile or humble way. Mostly to Children which sometimes we say, ‘oh boy, who believe in what that kid is saying’. Stories of Lourdes and Fatima can be very much a clear picture of Our Mother and the kids. So, to gain heaven or to have back to our self the Holiness of God is through pain and sufferings – yes, it’s hard but beyond pain and sufferings victory and newness of life will be granted. 

Let us enter with Christ entered triumphantly to Jerusalem to accept sorrow so that ne life will be granted when we celebrated with joy the Risen Christ. Let us be open and prepare to receive back to our beings the new life or the Holiness of God. Beyond the Cross there is Resurrection. See you next week again Stay Healthy and be safe.
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Fr. Niko Atonio 
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HAPPY EASTER

4/22/2019

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He is  Risen, Alleluia!
Empty Tomb is the visible proof of Jesus Resurrection. Empirical knowledge of Empty Tomb leads us to listen to the words of the Angel that "Why do you seek the Living among the Dead?" This question helps us to introspect ourselves.., where do I look for real Happiness? If we know and look in right place for right things then we can say we are fully transformed Christians.
As Jesus transformed the symbol of Shame into Symbol of Glory: the Cross. Jesus can also transform us.

HAPPY EASTER!

Fr. AJITH KUMAR,SS.CC.

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Third Sunday of the Lent

3/23/2019

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The theme for the third Sunday of the Lent is REPENTANCE.
First Sunday of Lent we reflected on the Temptation of Jesus, Second was about Transfiguration.
Reflection on the theme of Repentance this week, we need to remember how worst sinner could I be God never gives up on me.
God never gave up: God has promised never to give up on us. All of the Scriptures Old and New Testaments together are a record of how God never, never, never, never, never gives up.
​- Adam and Eve disobeyed the very First Rule. But God never gave up.
- Abraham wandered, and Sarah laughed. But God never gave up.
- Moses hid and shook with fear. But God never gave up.
- Saul went insane. But God never gave up.
- David plotted against Uriah. But God never gave up.
- Ahaz sold out to Assyria. But God never gave up.
- Israel fell into pieces. But God never gave up.
- The Jewish people became exiles. But God never gave up.
- John the Baptist was beheaded. But God never gave up.
- Peter denied he even knew Jesus, and Judas betrayed Him for 30 pieces of silver. But God never gave up.
- The disciples all ran away. But God never gave up.

Let Trust in the mercy of God, who heals all our wounds.
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First Sunday of the Lent

3/9/2019

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Temptation of Jesus in the desert.

Jesus prepared himself for his ministry by a period of fasting, praying, and strengthening himself against temptation.  How will we use the time of Lent for our spiritual training camp? Lent is a time to practice the use of God’s word as our defensive weapon against temptation.       

   What spiritual training plans will we put into practice during Lent? Prayer, fasting and almsgiving are traditional. Today’s passage from the Gospel might suggest that we spend a few minutes each day in reading Scripture.  Are we trying to live by "bread alone?" We might write a plan for each week of Lent. Here are some suggestions to get us started:

First Week I will . . . spend some time reading the Gospels or the Psalms.
Second Week I will . . . fast from foods, unhealthy for body and soul.
Third Week I will . . . volunteer at a soup kitchen, thrift shop, or day care center.
Fourth Week I will . . . learn a few lines of Scripture by heart.
Fifth Week I will . . . give clothes, money, or possessions to the poor.
Sixth Week I will . . . participate in Holy Week liturgies.


Courtesy: CBCI 
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32 Sunday of Ordinary Time - reflection

11/11/2018

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Once it so happened that two worn out currency bills of a hundred dollar and a one dollar  met each other at the end of their tenure. They shared among themselves the places they happened to go.  Hundred dollar bill very proudly said, “Soon after was I printed, I went into the hands of  the richest man, then into the hands of CEO of Google. From his hands, I went to the hands of a chief of CIA, from whose hands I went to a five star hotel. By then I was soiled and I am here.” The one dollar bill said, “As soon as I was printed, I was placed in the offertory box of immaculate conception shrine. From there, I went to Episcopalian church. Then I happened to reach a poor person who put me in a dilapidated church in a remote village. I was there for quite sometime. By the time, I was dirty and I am here.” The hundred dollar bill asked, “All the time you were mentioning ‘Church’. What is it? I have never heard about it.”
 
This anecdote points out how people, in general, are stingy when it comes to give to the causes of religion. In general, when it comes to the matter of God, we are more interested in receiving than giving. Today’s readings invite us to be the persons of selfless giving. The first reading talks about the generous giving of the widow of Zarephath. Even though she knew that death, caused by hunger, was imminent, yet she dared to share with Elijah the meager amount of flour she had. It shows, how in the midst of utter poverty, she upheld the love of others. The gospel speaks of the  contribution of a widow – the contribution which manifested her total and complete dependence on God.  It shows, how in the midst of utter poverty, she upheld the love of God. And in the second reading, the author of the book of Hebrews talks about the total self-sacrifice of Jesus on the cross. It shows, how in the midst of excruciating pain on the cross, he upheld the love of God and of others.      
 
In the Bible, the words ‘giving,’ ‘offering’ and ‘sacrifice’ etc., denote surrender. When it is said that the widow gave whatever she had, it simply means that she totally surrendered herself unto God. Here we need to understand that giving or surrendering ourselves unto God is not going to increase anything on the part of God. God is never less by our non-giving. Nor is he anything more by our giving. Instead surrender is very much necessary for us, the human. Surrender helps us in two ways. Firstly, it helps us reduce our suffering, and secondly it begets God’s blessing.

 a). Surrender & Suffering:     
Most of our sufferings have their roots in attachment. Buddha said, “Attachment is the root cause of all sufferings.”  (Quite often we erroneously say that desire is the root cause of suffering. Buddha, in Pali language, used the word tanha, whose right translation is attachment/aversion, and not desire.) When a person is attached to something, one begins to say, “This belongs to me” or “That belongs to me.” Whenever something unwanted takes place in the thing/person to which one is attached, naturally it affects the person too. The more a person is attached, the more sorrowful one is. In surrender, we tell God that everything belongs to Him and nothing belongs to us. Surrender is nothing but detachement. When this spirit of detachment prevails in a person, one will not be affected by what happens outside of oneself. In other words, one begins to be equanimous and the level of suffering will go down drastically.  
 
There was a king who spent sleepless nights because of various problems in his kingdom. A well-known intelligent sage once came to meet the king. The king told the sage of his problem and said, “I would be happy to give up the kingdom to any capable person and retire into an unknown place in order to regain my happiness.” The sage said, “Why don’t you give it to your son?” “Well! he is too young!” was the answer. “Why don’t you give it to your wife?” the sage asked. “Well! She is like me. She too would suffer” came the answer. Then the sage asked, “If that is the case, Why don’t you give it to me?” The king happily accepted the proposal since he knew the caliber of that sage. Then the sage asked, “Now you are not the king. Where do you want to go?”  He said, “I don’t have any specific plan.” The sage said, “If so, why don’t you do the job which you know already. You just be my servant and rule the kingdom. Don’t worry about the problems and the troubles. Just give your best in ruling the kingdom. The rest I will take care.” The king accepted it. He ruled the kingdom without worrying about the results. He just did everything to the best of his abilities. The results were remarkable. The kingdom improved a lot and at the same time the king never lost his sleep.   
 
This is the power of surrender. When a person thinks that s/he is the master of everything, all the vagaries of life begin to affect one and it leads to anxiety and restlessness. Instead, when a person surrenders oneself into the hands of God and does one’s best, life turns out for the best.

 b). Surrender & God’s Blessings:     
The second important thing that we need to understand while we speak about surrender is that surrender can beget the choicest blessings of God. When a person surrenders oneself into God’s hand, it can be said that the person is creating space for God. Contrastingly, when a person is full of oneself, then there is no place for God in one’s life. Through surrender, when a person creates space for God in oneself, then naturally God fills that person with choicest blessings and graces. This is what we see in the case of the widow of Zarephath. By giving she received more. The well-known words of St. Francis of Assisi are: ‘In giving we receive.’  
 
Creating space for God in our lives involves a continuous self-emptying and self-giving. Quite often we are full of ourselves – our desires, our egoism, our pride, our attachments etc. When we are full of ourselves, we keep God out of our lives. It is only when we develop the courage and guts to throw away the ego with all its various manifestations, it can be said that we create space for God in our lives.

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